Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Think positive positively!

WHEN A PERSON THINKS a negative thought and tries to get rid of it, that person is thinking positively negatively. Daniel M. Wegner of Trinity University in San Antonio, Texas, has conducted a long string of experiments that show the futility and actual danger of trying to get rid of thoughts.
In some of the experiments, Wegner told his subjects, “Try not to think about a white bear.” The subjects were then asked to say aloud everything that came to mind. Of course, thoughts of white bears showed up quite a bit. Trying not to think of a white bear produced a thought of a white bear between six and fifteen times in a five-minute period.
Trying not to think a negative thought will result in thinking it more.
Thinking is like breathing: It goes on night and day and you can’t stop it. But you can change it. You can breathe slowly and deeply or shallowly and quickly. You can breathe any way you want. But you can’t stop.
The same is true about thinking. You can say something stupid or depressing to yourself; you can say something intelligent or inspiring to yourself; but you can’t stop thinking entirely.
So when you find yourself disliking the content of your thoughts, instead of trying to stop yourself from thinking a thought, try to direct your thoughts.
And the way to direct your thinking is by asking yourself a question. A question gets your mind going in a new direction without suppressing what you’re already thinking. Ask yourself a question.
Of course, the kind of question you ask makes a big difference. If you ask “Why is this happening to poor me?” your answers won’t help you any.
The idea is to direct your mind by asking questions that put your attention on practical things, on accomplishment, on the future. If you find yourself worrying, for example, ask yourself something like this: “How can I make myself stronger and better able to deal with this?” Or “Can I get busy right now working on my goal — so busy I forget all about my worries? And if not, is there some planning I can do now that will save me time later?” Or even simply “What is my goal?”
When you find yourself thinking negatively about something “bad” that happened, ask yourself “What’s good about this?” Or “How can I turn this to my advantage?” Or “What assumption have I made that I can argue with?” Ask a good question.
When you decide on a question to ask yourself, ask the question and keep asking. Ponder it. Wonder about it. Let it run through your mind whenever your mind isn’t otherwise engaged. It will turn the tide of your thoughts and bring you into a new state of mind because you’re thinking positively positively.



Direct your mind by asking yourself
a good question.

35 comments:

  1. This post played with my head a little, but I think I got it down. Thanks for sharing! Good tips

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  2. Interesting thoughts. Followed.

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  3. One of the most interesting posts I've read in some time, the life of the brain and mind has always fascinated me.

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  4. This is definitely true. Or it seems to work out, at least for me. Interesting!

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  5. Very interesting read, I always question my thoughts.

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  6. haha girl with the mustache made lol

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  7. Or just turn on some reality TV, you'll stop thinking altogether.

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  8. this is why i dont think negatively anymore

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  9. Great views and advice...
    always a pleasure reading your posts :)

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  10. Good post and I love the otter picture.

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  11. That girl with the mustache, LOL.

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    check out my blog if you want. :)

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  13. That girl, lol. I cannot stop laughing! Laughing is seriously the best way to be happy...

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  14. That otter looks like he is plotting something, something evil.

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  15. Lol, nice post man, i'll follow you, maybe check out my blog as well

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  16. Liking your thinking here. Goals are great things to have. followed.

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  17. Some good stuff here. Check out NLP (neuro linguistic programming) for some similar stuff. Then blog it :)

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  18. I've tried meditation and it's hard not to think about thinking without... thinking about not thinking, if that makes sense. Cool post, interesting as always :)

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  19. "I'm telling you, she's 18! look at the mustache!"

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  20. Honestly, sometimes i wish i could just turn my brain off and just have peace and quiet for once.

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  21. positive, def stay positive

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  22. I wish my moustache was that good :(

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